Do You See Failure or Success?

I was so struck by this story. As a coach & healer of businesses, I saw the clarity in this query. So often as solo-service professionals it is easy to focus on our success by looking at ourselves (what they are doing, generating, visualizing, etc.), but the results are incredible when they turn the focus on those that they serve.

I remember attending a meditation workshop with Mark Epstein, a well-known 'Buddhist psychologist.' he told a story about a meeting he had with Ram Dass, spiritual teacher & author, where Ram Dass had asked Mark Epstein about his work with his patients. As Mark talked about his work, Ram Dass interrupted him & asked, "Do you see them as already healed?"

When I worked as a high school teacher--in moments when my students were working on their own--I would say to myself, "The light in me sees the light in you." I really felt that. I could see my students succeeding long before they could see it or could even venture to believe it. However, I knew as their teacher it was my duty to hold that vision & energy for them & then guide them through the action steps of getting there. It always worked. i've countless high school teaching success stories.

What do you see when you look at your clients or customers? Do you see failure or success?

I see that same (if not more--I've learned a lot in the past few years) success for the private & Boot Camp clients I work with now. I literally see them as a successful magazine owner, professional organizer, coach, meditation expert, Feng Shui practitioner...and the list goes on. It continues to work.

I ask you to begin to apply this to your own business. Here are 3 steps to begin SEEING success in those that you serve.

1)Change the way you look at things & the things you look at change.

In Dr. Wayne Dyer's book, The Power of purpose, he sites that, "It turns out that at the tiniest subatomic level, the actual act of observing a particle changes the particle." This is a clear example of energy affecting energy. If I look at you & see your success, then you begin to generate more of & be success! How great is that?

2)Be constantly giving.

So when speaking to a prospect, customer, or client, instead of questioning your abilities (wondering if you'll get the sale or joining them in their woes), the most powerful action you can take is to change the way you are looking at the situation. See them as happy, joyful, peaceful, well, successful...and more. You will be effecting a change that will result in more success & abundance for the both of you. (It feels so much better than worry & doubt!)

The energy of success is constantly giving & the supply is countless. When you can come from this place in your own business, you begin to attract more into your life.

I know when I first heard this, it was hard for me to grasp. Mostly, because I used to come from a place of giving, but have one eye immediately on making sure that I was compensated & simultaneously convinced that I wouldn't be. Guess what? I wasn't & I felt a whole lot of resentment simultaneously.

3)Detach from the outcome.

When I shifted my attention to giving for the sake of the success of those that I was serving & simultaneously confidently took care of what I needed for myself & my business (instead of waiting for somebody else to do do it), there was more success ALL around.

When you are able to SEE success, you don't need to be attached to the outcome because you KNOW that it's going to be successful. Whenever you are caught up in accumulating (I have to get this client; i've to sell to this customer), then you lose sight of what your main objective is--to see the success of those that you serve.

Find out exactly what's going on for the person that you're speaking to. Ask them & ask yourself, what do they need? The answer to this query is usually multi-layered. (For example, prospects that come to me may need more income from their businesses, but they also need to move through the blocks they've unconsciously set up for themselves that's keeping them from getting more money). So, you then SEE them as getting their needs fully met & begin the technique of working with that person, so you can help make it happen.

Call To Action:

1) Ask yourself, how do i see my prospects, clients, or customers? Be honest. let the answer come. No judgment. It will give you a lot of information.

2) With whatever answer you get now, ask yourself, "How can I improve?" how do i see this situation differently?

3) For one day focus only on those you serve & their success. Write down the difference in how you feel, the results that your clients get, & anything else that pops up.